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Unlimited and unsupervised access to numerous types of media has become an issue that has brought about numerous and tragic regrets in our homes. There is an alarming increase in Christian homes allowing artists like Lil Wayne to find their way upon their children’s iPods.

I don’t believe this would be the case in many of the instances if parents knew what this guy says in his lyrics. “Artists” like Lil Wayne set an all new low for morality in music, and yet his controversial stance has made him even more popular to many of our younger generation. (The below article mentions a song that Lil Wayne co-raps/sings with Jay Sean and is milder and less explicit than his typical songs.)

Doesn’t it tend to be far more difficult on parents when their child constantly reminds them that the other parents at church/school are letting their kids listen to (fill in the blank)? I have been pleasantly surprised at the number of our Forsythe Church of Christ parents who will call and ask what I’ve heard about various artists and/or movies. I am always willing to help in this area, and appreciate them alerting me of shows, games, artists, and/or movies that clearly discourage the life Christ has called us to live.

I know we won’t always agree on every media choice. However, the lifestyles that are often boasted about are so extreme that they are clearly challenging families to rise above pre-existing apathy.

The other day, I told my son Griffin that I hated something. He turned his head and blushed. When I questioned him on what was wrong, he reminded me that he learned at school that we shouldn’t say, “hate”. Not wanting to rob him of this innocent moment, I apologized for my language.

Do you remember that innocence in your child? Some of the artists students talk to me about, are expressing some of the most ridiculously immoral things one could imagine, and many of our students are being robbed of their innocence and ability to blush. Not only are they numb to the obscene words, but many of our young christian students are no longer blushing about obscene messages that instruct them about how life should be enjoyed. Jeremiah 8:12 remarks about the challenge facing our children,
“Are they ashamed of their loathsome conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they do not even know how to blush. So they will fall among the fallen…”

I beg my fellow parents to research the messages that these “artists” are conveying. Before you let a child download a song, have them review it with you. If you doubt the effect the obscene song might have upon your child, please read the credible research results mentioned in the article below.

As I reflect upon the faithful adults that I have had an opportunity to serve over the years when they were teens, there are some general ingredients that are hard to miss from their lives as teenagers. Here are a few of them:

1. Most of them had parents that were active in filtering the media that their child would experience, while they guided them to make their own wise choices.
2. Many of the kids didn’t always like me or their parents, because we were working together at telling them how to build their life upon the rock (Mt. 7:24), versus ensuring that they fit in with the latest trend.
3. We loved them more than we cared about what they thought of us.

May our impressive unity strengthen our stance to overcome the flaming arrows(Eph 6:16) that are constantly being launched at our youth and families.

Striving to Build on the Rock,

Jason

“Dad, can I download Down?”
That’s what my 14-year-old asked me this week, hoping to download the song from iTunes onto her iPod. If you’re a parent, you may have experienced a situation similar to this, seeing that 76% of 8-18 year-olds now own these mobile music devices (KFF, Generation M2, page 29).
During lunch that day, Alyssa had heard Jay Sean’s song “Down” play over the school’s PA system (because that’s what our public schools often do in CA). There’s little wonder why my daughter heard this song at school

The difficult task is daily balancing exactly how much guidance our kids need… and when to just back off.

Though it’s currently ranked #23 on Billboard’s Hot 100, this song by Jay Sean and Lil Wayne has been on the charts for 30 weeks and it peaked at #1. In other words, this tune has gotten some serious air time!  I heard it in the airport last weekend.
My kids have an agreement with my wife Lori and me that they must review the lyrics before downloading any song. We’ve been trying to teach them to use discernment with what they listen to because we all know that music truly affects actions. (Just last week David’s Youth Culture Window article cited the unique study performed by the University of Sussex about the affect of music on teenagers. That study made me want to “knock some pencils off the table” in my house to see what happens!)
So when Alyssa asked me if she could download the song, I offered her the same response I always give. “Did you look at the lyrics?”
She answered honestly, “Yeah, but I couldn’t tell if they were bad.”
You gotta love this situation! Here’s my daughter being a normal teenager who likes the sound of a song. She knows the process in our house and she comes to me genuinely seeking an answer of what’s right… or just hoping I’d say yes!
Here lies the struggle. In moments like these I can’t help but second guess myself. Alyssa is a great kid. Am I monitoring her too much? Should I back off and let her just download what she wants? After all, my rules seem a little more stringent than many other parents I know…even some of those in my church.
Do you ever wonder what to do in these situations?
Sally and Shirley
I’ve met two extremes when it comes to making these kinds of decisions as parents. The first extreme is the parent I call Sally SoWhat. Sally doesn’t monitor what her kids watch or listen to at all. Despite the many reports from experts like the American Academy of Pediatrics about the effect that music has on our kids, and regardless of the fact that secular researchers who study the media consumption of teenagers all recommend that parents “need to understand how it’s affecting them” … Sally simply responds, “They’re gonna hear it at school anyway.” So Sally lets them listen to anything they want, and if you saw the sample of popular lyrics David provided in last week’s Youth Culture Window article, you see what music Sally is allowing her kids to feed their minds with for an average of 2 hours and 19 minutes a day. (More here on “Do the Lyrics Really Affect Our Kids?”)
The other extreme is the parent I call Shirley Shoebox. Shirley surprisingly doesn’t look up any lyrics or research any music at all. To Shirley, it’s all evil! She has banned all secular media from the house completely and tries to shelter her teenagers from any secular influence. Secular music is all bad in Shirley’s mind; she even has her own Christian version of the song “Happy Birthday,” not bowing to any societal conformities.
The Shirleys of this world think that their kids don’t ever hear any of the music because they are usually homeschooled or attend private schools (note: I’m not slamming homeschooling or private schools- I actually homeschooled my own girls during middle school. I’m just noting that Shirley thinks that this protects her kids). But the reality is, unless Shirley lives in Amish country in Pennsylvania, her kids do hear the music every time they walk through Wal Mart or go to a friend’s house. And for those “Shirleys” who actually let their kids on the internet (complete with CyberNanny installed, hoping to block all bad content), those kids hear the music on iTunes and see videos on YouTube without Shirley knowing. I know this, because I regularly speak at Christian camps around the country and talk with Shirley’s kids from coast to coast. They know many of the current songs and are familiar with the same artists as Sally’s kids. Often, Shirley’s kids aren’t taught to use Biblical values to make good choices, the choice is already made for them. Usually, they can’t wait to escape the “shoebox” that Shirley keeps them in, venture out in the real world at age 18, and experience everything they’ve missed while living in the shoebox.
I don’t want to be Sally.
I don’t want to be Shirley.
Analyzing Lyrics
Meanwhile… Alyssa is patiently waiting for me to help her decide if the lyrics of Down are good or bad.
Here goes!
Alyssa hands me the lyrics to the song. “Are these bad?” she asked. “I can’t tell.”
Here’s a snippet of what she handed me:

You oughta know
Tonight is the night to let it go
Put on a show
I wanna see how you lose control
Aside from the lyrics themselves, one of the first things I noticed was that this song also featured the artist Lil Wayne. This made me flinch. The guy is a “playa.” His lyrics are always filthy and degrading to women.
This is one of those songs that often might be considered “clean” by most. After all, no cuss words. No obvious descriptions of lewd sexual acts. (Not bad for a song by Lil Wayne.)
But it’s not always easy to tell what a song is about just by reading or listening to its lyrics. Believe it or not…some artists try to sneak hidden meanings into songs.
Shocking, I know.
So, one of the things my co-worker David and I do is refer to the song’s music video. Often, they’re available for free viewing on sites like YouTube or Vevo. The music video for “Down” provides some enlightening insights into the song’s meaning. (This isn’t always the case, but today’s young people often watch the videos of their favorite songs anyway.) I asked Alyssa if she had seen the video. She responded, “Yeah, a bunch of times at Carly’s house.”
So I pulled up the video to take a peek for myself. To be fair, I’m happy to say that this video breaks rank with most of the Hip/Hop videos that feature hundreds of scantily clad girls writhing sexually while the singer calls them all kinds of foul names. However, it does retain enough elements of this genre of music to cause me concern.
For example, there’s the presence of Lil Wayne. I make no apologies for my stance on his art: it’s tasteless. In this video, his opening line (in verse 3) is “…down like she supposed to be, she get down low for me….” It doesn’t take too much interpretation to figure out what he’s talking about. Further, every online video that I researched has part of this line muted because even they know what he’s talking about.
Then there’s the fact that Sean promises a girl “you are my only,” yet he seems to enjoy dancing with several other ladies.
Again, it’s not the filth that usually accompanies Hip/Hop music, but are these elements the kind I want my child exposed to?
So I decided to look at the big picture for a moment. I was honest and real with Alyssa.
“So what we have here is a song that seems to be from a guy who wants to get ‘down’ with a girl, whatever that might mean. Maybe the writer of the song is keeping that vague for a reason. The only hints we have to what that means are in the lines, “I wanna see how you lose control” and “Come on and bring your body next to me.” I don’t think this guy just wants to play Duck-duck-goose.
We talked a little bit about the Lil Wayne lyrics and what those meant. But then I ventured a little further in my reasoning to Alyssa. ”Sex is a great thing,” I told her candidly. “I really hope that you enjoy sex with your husband some day. You two probably will even listen to romantic music together or read poetry together. Heck, Song of Solomon is pretty graphic, and that’s in the Bible. The author is pretty excited about God’s creation. Some day you’re going to experience that sexual joy… and it’s good stuff.
“But the question you have to ask yourself right now is, ‘Do I, a 14-year-old girl need to be constantly replaying a song in my head about this subject matter? Do I need to be thinking about this continually?’”
I actually did something I don’t normally do, I quoted some research. “A few years ago, a medical publication called Pediatrics did a study and concluded that ‘teenagers whose iPods are full of music with raunchy, sexual lyrics start having sex sooner than those who prefer other songs.’ The report goes on to say, ‘teens who said they listened to lots of music with degrading sexual messages were almost twice as likely to start having intercourse or other sexual activities within the following two years as were teens who listened to little or no sexually degrading music.’ The research is solid. The music does affect you.”
Alyssa sighed. “Dang. I really like the song!”
I agreed with her. “I know. It’s really got a good sound, and it’s catchy. I kinda like it too. But should we only judge a song by whether we like the sound, or by what we know is right?”
She thought about that for a moment, stirring the carpet fibers with her foot, then looking up at me with her big blue eyes. “By what’s right.”
Then I did something that was difficult, but necessary as my kids get older. Something that not all parents should do with their 14-year-old, but something I thought Alyssa was ready for. I took a lesson from my buddy Walt Mueller in our THE SOURCE Podcast #30, who says parents have to move from “thinking for our kids” to “helping them think Christianly for themselves.” I kicked it back to her.
Bottom line: I gave her the power to make the choice.
I told her.  “Then you know what to do—not what you think sounds cool—but what you think is right.”
Alyssa decided not to download the song.
Teaching Our Kids to Discern
I realize not all kids are as easy as Alyssa. If I would have given my 12-year-old Ashley the choice, she probably would have said, “The words don’t affect me! I’ll go ahead and download it!”
Parenting is a process that embarks with us making decisions for our children when they are young, and eventually arrives at the point where we completely release them to their own decisions when they are out on their own. The time in between is a segue from one point to the other. In my house, Ashley, a middle school kid, needs more guidance from us as to what is acceptable and what isn’t. Alyssa, a freshman in high school, needs less.
The difficult task is daily balancing exactly how much guidance our kids need… and when to just back off. The important truth we must realize is that if we neglect to give our kids opportunities to make decisions for themselves and face the consequences for those decisions, then they’ll never learn from their failures. Think about this for a moment.  Do you want your kids’ first experience with natural consequences and failure to be when they are out of the house or with you at their side?
Teach your kids values and then give them opportunities to make decisions using those values. That doesn’t mean becoming Sally SoWhat. It means equipping them to think Biblically about decisions and still allowing them to experience failure in your shadow.
As a parent, I struggle with this balance every day.

Jonathan McKee, president of The Source for Youth Ministry, is the author of numerous youth ministry books including the brand new Connect: Real Relationships in a World of Isolation, and the award winning books Do They Run When They See You Coming? and Getting Students to Show Up. He speaks and trains at camps, conferences, and events across North America, and provides free resources for youth workers internationally on his website, TheSource4YM. com.

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PATRICK’S BIOGRAPHY

Patrick is the preaching minister for the 1300+ member Rochester Church of Christ in Rochester Hills, Michigan, an hour’s drive north of downtown Detroit and teaches special topics at nearby Rochester College. Patrick was raised by missionary parents, both of whom are still active in their 70’s. He delivers 20-35 seminars annually as well as continues his close association with mission work in Scotland, where he was a missionary, Romania, and Indonesia. He considers his life proof that God can take the weakest among us and use them to His glory.Dr. Mead is the highest rated instructor in the continuing education program at The Ohio State University; an honor he has earned for each of the last four years. He has the unique ability to distill thousands of pages of complex information and weaving it into an understandable presentation mixed with his own unique blend of Celtic humor.

His academic qualifications are as varied and – it is fair to say – as eccentric as Patrick himself. He holds undergraduate degrees in Correctional Counseling and Linguistics, graduate degrees in Counseling Psychology, two doctoral degrees – the higher one in Psychoneuroimmunology – along with several postdoctoral diplomas. He is a member of Mensa and several professional associations and holds honors from three State Governors for his volunteer work among the poor and in behalf of education.

Patrick (he prefers to be called simply by his first name rather than “doctor” or “pastor”) serves as an instructor three to five times a year at OSU and somewhat less frequently at Purdue, Indiana State University, Ohio University, the University of Michigan, and Ohio Valley College, mainly in the fields of psychology, communication, and research into Alzheimer’s disease. He continues to research and write in several fields of study — most on the graduate level for medical students or those pursuing a career in psychology.

Patrick is married to Kami Taylor Mead, an interior designer in Rochester. They have been married more than 28 years and have two wonderful children. Kara Graves is married to another Rochester minister, Joshua. Duncan is 19 and has begun his officer training in the United States Marine Corps. They are a missionary family. Patrick was raised by missionaries who traveled the world to spread the gospel of Christ. At Rochester, he is privileged to be a part of a congregation that is captured by Jesus’ mission.

Also, a man who made a rare and inspiring sacrifice on NBC’s hit show, “The Biggest Loser”.  Way to display the love of  Christ in front of our whole nation, Sean!!!

Also, check out Sean at  http://www.nbc.com/the-biggest-loser/ Come see what he looks like at Discover 2009.  It is safe to say he has lost a few pounds.

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Morning Classes

Class 1a – Dusty Rush – “51/2 Things I Wish The Adults at My Church Would Do”

Class 1b- Thomas McIntosh – “How To Have True Friends?”

Class 1c – Billy Morvant – “God Gave Us His Best, We…”

Class 1d – Alan Robertson and Mike Kellett – “Our Best is Yet To Come”

Class 1e – Jayme Stokes and Mollie Harper – ‘Princesses of the Kingdom”

Afternoon Classes

Class 2a- Sean Algaier – “God and My Experience on a Primetime Major Television Network”

Class 2b – Houston Bass – “What It Takes To Be a Teen Leader for Christ”

Class 2c – John Dobbs – “Overcoming Difficult Times While Leaning Upon Your Church Family”

Class 2d- Jarod Stokes – “Glorifying God through Graphic Design and 21^st Century Art”

Class 2e – Jayme Stokes and Mollie Harper – ‘Princesses of the Kingdom”

Class 2f- Braden Bristo – “Why I Choose God’s Playbook for My Life”

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Camp Ocoee 2009

“Fearless”

8^th – 12^th grade

July 25^th – 29^th

Ocoee, Tennessee

What 2 Pack:

Bible, pen, bedding, clothes, hiking shoes, modest swimming attire (see Christina for questions) toiletries, towels, rafting shoes(wet shoes or old pair of tennis shoes), awesome attitude, $40 for extra meals, and fishing equipment.

What not 2 pack:

Ipods, game systems, phones,  or anything that tends to make students non-soc

7-12 grade Winter Retreat – January 16-18
Theme: “Knowing Christ and Making Him Known”

Next weekend please meet at my house at 4:00p.m. to consolidate vehicles and depart for Lake Darbonne. We will return Sunday at 12:30 p.m. The cost for the weekend is $25. To be fully prepared, I need to know ASAP and no later than Wednesday if you can make it. God has blessed our times together in amazing ways that we will never forget. Please prepare for the weekend by praying for God to unfold our minds and hearts for this special weekend. I want to encourage everyone to worship Him through the week leading up to the event by offering yourself to him in a special and unique way. There are unlimited ways we can bless the lives of others. For this week, I want to ask you to do something special to honor Jesus that is out of your routine. Church, please join us in praying that God will give us the wisdom to bless these children and their future families for eternity.

Packing list: BIBLE!!, Pen, Notebook, Sleeping Bag, Pillow, Toiletries, Clothes for 3 days(check the weather), Fishing equipment, updated medical information(Please make sure I am up to date of any relevant medical conditions.)

Live Video Webcast
This past week I hosted a live video internet morning devotional from my home for teens. We are going to try a children’s bed-time story Sunday night at 8:00p.m.. (Allen and Griffin want to help.) I will offer a brief story and have a prayer for the children and then visit with anyone who wants to stick around. At 8:30 p.m., I will share a verse with the teens and say a special prayer for them. You can watch live and visit with anyone who shows up. The Blog King has been mentoring me in the electronic arts so I may have a few bugs left to work out. To stop by, click the following link:

http://www.ustream.tv/channel/jason%27s-front-porch

Mark Your Calendar!
February 27-March 1 – Renewal 2009
April 9-11 – LTC

Wonder –

So much wonder and awe filled this season centuries ago. The wonder of Zechariah, Mary, Joseph, the Shepherds, those in Bethlehem, Magi, those in the Temple, Simeon and I bet there are other unrecorded instances of awe and amazement that surrounded the birth of our Lord. How about today? What are we wondering about during a season that was meant to be in awe of the birth of our Savior?

Sacrifice –

Is Christmas more about giving or sacrifice? What a sacrifice it must have been for Jesus to leave the indescribable beauties of heaven and become one who could identify with our weaknesses.

Humility –

Is Christmas about us or Him? Is it Memas or Christmas?

Charity –

I find it quite touching that Jesus reminds us that when we give, we give to him. His first night on earth was hosted by the charitable act of an innkeeper.

Creativity –

Nothing about the first Christmas seemed to follow traditional expectations of the arrival of a dignitary. God has, is, and will do amazingly creative deeds to bless our lives. I have been truly blessed by those who have sought to honor God with their own creativity.

Simplicity –

Stop the nightmarish traps of the modern revolving door Christmas that hinders us from embracing such a marvelous time of the year. “This year, slow down, look up, breathe deeply, spend less – and simplify, simplify! The way of a calmed Christmas – simplicity!” (David Jeremiah pg.65)

Affection –

There is little doubt that our affection can be challenged this time of the year by a variety of once a year situations. However, scripture is clear about a call for affection towards church members, family, unbelievers, and those in need. What type of affection are we exhibiting and not exhibiting towards those God has placed in our lives?

Reflection –

Luke 2:19 – Luke 2:19 (NIV) “¹⁹ But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.” Some of the most fantastic moments of Christmas come from being still and reflecting on the blessings of Christmas. Psalms 4:4 (NIV) ^“4 … when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Selah”

Giving –

Jesus was the first Christmas gift and the introduction to our hope. This gift has given us the right to become the ‘children of God”(John1:12)

Music –

I find it interesting that older generations of Christians thought their hymnals were just about as valuable to them as their Bibles. Music helps the truths of Christmas sink into our souls.

Children –

Matthew 7:9-11 (NIV)
⁹ “Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?
¹⁰ Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?
¹¹ If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!

Kids don’t worry about the threats of Coal in your stocking! Just read to your parents Matthew 7:9-11. Wait! Maybe it might be better to leave the verse lying around the house.

Tradition –

May our traditions and imagination games remind us of the Glory of God. Pastor Nicholas’ 4th century good deeds were meant to give the glory to God. How can we develop and introduce traditions that will bless our families long after we are gone?

Don’t miss our Sunday Morning Class at 9:30 a.m. based on 12 Biblical Virtues that should fill our holiday season. The class curriculum is based off of David Jeremiah’s book, “The 12 Ways of Christmas”.

Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
⁸ Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

God, may my thoughts bring you praise! I am very thankful that God has led me and my family to serve at Forsythe! I wanted to share with you a few of the qualities I have noticed over the last couple of months that fill me with thankfulness as I reflect on the beauty of this special church:

A tremendous outpouring of hospitality

People rejoicing with those who rejoice and mourning with those who mourn

People who like to build others up

Really neat kids hungering for God’s word and the opportunity to serve Him

Students consistently attending worship services without parental encouragement

Students who love to help without grumbling or complaining

People who are humble enough to say why they appreciate others

Parents who despite facing adversity always take time to say thank you

People giving up their entire weekend serving in thankless tasks with a joyful and dedicated spirit

Grown adults who show through their time and money that they would prefer to believe in what God can do through this generation than condemn them

Numerous creative projects and personal deeds that are done in humility to minister to those in need

Young and Old who in humility take time to give deep and sincere encouragement

People who are willing to risk the vulnerability of giving a sincere compliment

Sisters in Christ wanting to honor their church family members with a birthday party furnished with homemade chicken and dumplings - Just Because they love

People saying thank you

People who care for their ill family members

People who dream about how they can help bless the kingdom of God

People who hand you a check and say, “This is for the kids.”

Church family who call their family when they don’t see them because they really missed them

People who take the high road despite numerous opportunities to take one of Satan’s shortcuts

People who stood strong against the temptation of gossip

Teachers who refuse to give up pouring their hearts into teaching God’s children

People who despite very discouraging situations, remain joyful and trust in a wonderful God

And I am thankful for a friend who has had a year filled with real life nightmares, sincerely share with the congregation he serves why he should be thankful.

God, before, during, and after the thanksgiving holiday may my heart be filled with the thankfulness of the glory you have revealed.

Anybody want to participate in a challenge! I dare you to post on this site at least 3 people that God has used to bless your life. Feel free to fill in examples of Phil 4:8.

I’m thankful for: 1.) My supportive wife, Christina 2.) My quiet and gentle son, Allen 3.) My social and energetic son, Griffin

Last night was very encouraging as I noticed so many of our members and guests joyfully interacting with the children.   Smiles and laughter filled the parking lot as so many  partnered in loving on the numerous children.  In a dark cruel world, loving places can be hard to find.  I believe Forsythe is a place where you can find many opportunities to share in Loving on others.   It is a privilege to be apart of such a family.